ok..a little warning before i begin...as usual, everything in this post is my opinion... i dont think it will offend any of my friends but im just making sure you all know that i'm not trying to alienate anyone, this is just how i feel..
last night i had a talk with a friend, who told me that she now believes people can "become" gay. she told me that her teacher "was straight" and "became a lesbian." this conversation started because she told me that she went to a play, and in the play {based on true events} the women mentioned having boyfriends and girlfriends in the past. i assumed bisexuality. however my friend said, "no. i think she was straight and then decided to become a lesbian."
in my own opinion, i don't believe that you "become" glbtq[etc] or straight. you are what you are. however, here is a scenario i DO believe could happen:
Molly is a nice girl in a regular town with a loving family.
Molly goes to the local public school, and throughout her teen years has boyfriends.
Molly is happy with her boyfriends. She does not even think there is an inkling of "gayness" in her.
One day, while Molly is in college, she has an experience with, and begins dating, a girl.
Molly does not identify with one end of the spectrum, and perhaps she finds that she really likes being with women AND men.
OR
Molly REALIZES she is a lesbian. she didnt "become" a lesbian. she is a lesbian. OR bisexual. OR [insert label here] OR not labeled at all.
my point is, i dont think anyone "becomes" anything. you are who you are. i dont think anyone is 100% straight or homosexual. maybe 90%. but everyone has the ability to have a sexual experience outside the "norm" for them. just as i dont think straight people "become" gay, i dont think gay people can "become" straight.
does anyone have thoughts on this? i had more to say but i was interrupted for a few hours and now am too tired.
2 comments:
for the most part i agree with you ... i don't think anyone "becomes" another sexual preference ... but over time people can open up to new experiences and in turn like being with both genders... like you stated in your example "Molly" grew up with boyfriends and in college found a girlfriend. So it could be the environment that she was in that could be the catalyst for her change ... but even if thats the case she just wouldn't be 100% lesbian and switched over just from that alone... and for the most part still wouldn't be turned off from the opposite sex.
exactly. i'm glad you understand :)
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